Hello, It’s Been A While

Remember me?  I think it's time to introduce myself again. I'm Vicky. Mother to three girls, writer, dog mom to one Doberman, two-time Post-Partum Depression survivor, chronically ill with Lyme Disease and co-infections (#lymewarrior), domestic violence survivor, and fitness coach.  Whew! What sets me apart from all the other blogs out there?  Nothing, but my own unique story, my take on life and the fact that I live by a ton of quotes (mostly film and TV-related) but this one in particular, "It ain't about how hard you hit; it's about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward." * In my former life, before Lyme tried to take me down, I reviewed cars, wrote about fashion trends and picks. I talked about my early days of parenting back when Mommy blogs were all the rage.  I … [Read more...]

Twenty Years

You know when you meet someone and just know that you two are meant to be?  That it is love at first sight? This is not that. When these two twenty-somethings met on May 2, 1998. TWENTY YEARS AGO today *insert "land sakes" or a "gracious me" in there* It was a not a storybook romance.  There was no meet cute. Just an "Oh, it's you." at the start of our blind date.  I might have hissed at my friend that I could not see spending a whole evening in my cute LBD with this guy as my date.  He may have insulted me because my attitude wasn't sweet but came with a bite. Sigma Kappa Spring Formal, May 2, 1998 Fast forward through that lovely movie montage of us getting married in Vegas, making a few moves around the country as we get a dog, have three kids, realize we need marriage … [Read more...]

Book Review- The 50 Fridays Marriage Challenge

*Disclaimer:  TMC was not paid for this post.  Products are for review purposes only.  Opinions are TMC's only.                      I've discussed in the past how hard marriage can be.  Actual functioning relationships that grow, stay out of stagnation and flourish are almost like jobs.  You have to work at that every day.  H and I celebrated our twelve-year wedding anniversary yesterday.  While it was the first time we didn't have big plans but we did manage to find time together during our kids church event because it was important that we take time out to communicate after what had been a long week with us apart more often than normal.  It is so important to take time away from all the busy parts of … [Read more...]

Me Marginalizing Me

It was just an everyday conversation between H and I that had us relaying the events of the day. When I said it, I didn't think about it more than just filling H in with what was going on in our world. "Next Friday I'm seeing the breast surgeon. I FINALLY got in (it has only been about a month and a totally different doctor but you know...) and Beth is going to go with me." I said. … [Read more...]

The Marathon of Marriage

Two years ago this month I wrote about the state of my marriage with the post, 'Words'.  Then 'Words Opened Doors', literally.  A tense week before Christmas H and I decided that while we weren't speaking to each other except in front of the kids we would stay together for the holiday and go from there.  A few weeks later marriage counseling began and we had hope.  We hoped to work out our differences to stop that fights that had vicious moments where we screamed at the top of our lungs, "I HATE YOU!"  so violently that it left me exhausted. Yes, that was me and I did. A lot.  I hated him and what we had become.  The feeling was mutual.  We had become stunted, afraid to speak our true thoughts and realize that things had changed. Months of counseling went by, individually and together … [Read more...]