May 25, 2013

We Still Remember

I’m reluctant to post about 9/11 despite the ten year anniversary. It isn’t that I feel such a distance from that day that I have nothing to say. It is that I wonder what is so important about what I have to say regarding that day. I’m glad it is on a Sunday this year [...]

Huzzah! Marriage Counseling for Everyone!

OK.  So I’m not giving away free counseling sessions or anything like that.  But I realized yesterday that frequently people ask me, “How is marriage counseling going these days?”  Yes, people do really ask me this. My most common reply is this, “You know, no one ever teaches you how to be married.  It’s going really [...]

Marriage Can Be Fucking Hard- Part II

H asked me this question recently, “Does it always have to be this hard?  Will it ever get easier?”  I took him to mean our life as a whole and hopefully not just our marriage or parenting because man, once you put those two together it is just downright exhausting.  They say the Army is [...]

Words Opened Doors

Someone said to me recently, “You have to start being really careful about what you put on Facebook.”  And no, it wasn’t my mother that said this.  When I asked what this person was talking about it all had to do with Words.  Of course. Except, here is the thing, Facebook picks up my blog.  [...]

Words

Words.  They are powerful.  Once they are said you can’t take them back.  They float out there and then immerse themselves into your brain and your heart and live there forever taking up a permanent residence. Words can take away love. Words can break a trust. Words wound and slash away at memories, clouding the [...]

Continuing Education

I feel I have been so serious lately.  I’ve been focused on getting back to work, getting back into shape, getting into being the mother of three instead of just two little girls.  It is all so time consuming.  Such a massive run around that has me dedicating a lot of time to my own [...]

Marriage Can Be Fucking Hard

I went for a run the other day and before I was even a block away from my house I coughed up some tears.  My face crumpled, tears flowed and emotion vomited out of me right on the street in from of my house.  I was powerless to squelch it no matter how many times [...]

The Revolving Door

Lately it seems that things have been a bit off-kilter. If one of us is home the other is out. When another one returns a few others leave. Our home has become a revolving door the last few months and it has begun to take its toll. It’s been fun. All those nights out, trips [...]

Cheeseburgers & Vodka

Scene: I’ve just come home from an entire day of doing nothing but hanging out with an old friend. As I’m about to exit my car I spy H walking up the sidewalk to get the mail. V: Now, there’s a fine piece of man! H turns and smiles and keeps walking. I enter our [...]

No, You May Not Frost My Cupcake

It’s discussion time again and this week I’m posing a question about friendships, the relationships between men and women and what is appropriate and what is not. It’s up to you. Read the issue, discuss in the comments and offer up your opinion. You are sitting at your friends house and her husband makes a [...]